Will We Be Married In Heaven?

My Sweet Michael,


It's been 9 months and 2 days since you've been gone.  Last night I was visited once again by my old friend "the ugly cry".  I have so many questions, so much desperation in looking for answers.  I miss you so very, very much and the reality of the fact that you're not coming back is starting to feel very real and very scary.  I still just can't get my mind around it completely.


I think one of the hardest questions is this:  Will you still be my husband in Heaven?  So many faiths believe that that there will be no marriage in Heaven.  This is based on Luke 20:27-38 (As well as Matthew 22:23-32 and Mark 12:18-27) (The sons of this age marry and are given in marriage; but they who shall be accounted worthy to obtain that age, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage; for they cannot any more die; for they are equal to the angels, and are the sons of God, being sons of the resurrection.”).

Jesus’ response addresses marriage as a legal contract – which is what the Sadducees were asking about – but it says nothing about marriage as the union of two souls. To understand this, it’s necessary to understand why the Sadducees were asking Him this question in the first place. The Sadducees “deny that there is any resurrection.” They were asking Jesus a question about marriage in the resurrection not because they were curious, but because they wanted to prove that there could not possibly be a resurrection at all. 

The kind of marriage that Jesus spoke of in contrast to the Mosaic marriage was a different thing entirely. He said, “On this account shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall be into one flesh. Wherefore they are no longer two, but one flesh. What, therefore, God has joined together, let not man put asunder,” and “Moses, because of your hard heartedness, permitted you to send away your wives; but from the beginning it was not so.” The ideal of marriage was that of Adam and Eve – not a legal contract but a union of souls. It is marriage, but in a sense so different from the idea of the Sadducees as to not even be deserving of the same name. 

From Bible.Org:  The implication of Scripture is that we will know our loved ones in heaven both before and after resurrection. The disciples were able to recognize the Lord after His death and resurrection. Scripture teaches us that we will have a glorified body like his (Phil. 3:21f) which suggests that what was true of His body will be true of ours.

Further, 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 was written to believers, some of whom had lost a believing loved one. They were concerned about how death would affect those believing loved ones who had died before the Lord returned in person. In Paul’s answer to this he gave revelation that concerned several things: the rapture of living saints and the resurrection of believers who had died, but he also speaks of a reunion not only with the Lord, but with all believers. As a word of comfort this certainly speaks not only of the facts of the rapture and resurrection, but also of a reunion which would mean little if we could not recognize our friends and loved ones.

In addition, the Bible speaks of death and the rapture as being “at home” (see 2 Cor. 5:1-8 and John 14:1f) and this would also imply recognizing love ones.

In my heart, when I think about my own death, I "see" you greeting me on the other side.  I imagine that you will take my hand and walk with me and present me to Christ as your wife.  Scripture talks about the second coming and that the dead in Christ will rise first and be reunited with those of us left on Earth and THEN will join Christ (AFTER THAT, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up TOGETHER WITH THEM IN THE CLOUDS to meet the Lord IN THE AIR..." (I Thess.4:15-17 NIV).) 

So, Michael, here's what I think in a nutshell:  God created us in His image.  He created Adam and from Adam's own being (his rib), he created Eve.  He didn't use Adam's rib because He'd run out of dirt, He used Adam's rib because Eve was a PART of Adam.  All things on this Earth, God created for man's use and pleasure.  The Bible says that Heaven will be even more beautiful and more wonderful than this life. The Bible says that God does not change.  He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow.  

So, if God created man and woman to be one flesh, why do people believe that in this ONE area, God would look down and say "Oh, wow, now THAT was a mistake...I sure don't want any of that up here in Heaven"?  If I'm wrong, then I sure wish that you would come back down here and tell me! (Which opens up a whole other theological discussion, doesn't it?  LOL!).

I guess when it comes right down to it, I know that Heaven will be wonderful.  I know that I will know you and recognize you and that we will love each other.  I don't think anyone disputes that much.  I also know that Heaven will be more amazing and magnificent than I can ever imagine with my poor, limited, earthly brain.  I know that I will be with my Savior.  I know that I will see you and love you and together, just like we did here on Earth, we will lift our arms and we will praise the Glory of God.

I love you so much, My Sweet Husband.  And I know that I will continue to love  you and be loved by you, in Heaven.

Do My Tears Mean I Have No Faith?

My Sweet Michael,

It's been almost 9 months since I last heard your voice or felt your arms around me.  I have cried a million tears with the missing of you.  My sorrow reaches deep within me and it seems as if it has no end.  Even in sleep, I awaken crying out to God to please send you home to me.  In all my life, I have known no suffering such as this.  I mourn the loss of the life we planned, the life we loved.  I mourn the love that I received and the love that I gave.  And I see no end to this sadness. 

 Psalm 31:10, 14-15 "I am dying from grief; my years are shortened by sadness.  Misery has drained my strength; I am wasting away from within.  But I am trusting you, O lord, saying, "You are my God!  My future is in your hands".  

I am a woman of faith.  You knew that, the world knows that.  Being a Christian is supposed to mean that we have hope.  Hope that we will see each other again.  Faith that God has a purpose in all of this, even if I don't understand it.  But do my tears mean that I have no faith?  Do my tears show that I don't trust God in this?  I know that there are those who look at people who profess great faith and yet lay sobbing in a messed up heap, and they must ask themselves "If her God is so great, why is she crying?  Why does she suffer?  If her God is so great, where is He when she needs him so much?".

I can tell you that losing you has tested my faith.  Losing you has brought anger against God that is so strong and so ferocious that the force of it scares me.  But losing you has never made me turn against God.  Losing you has never made me question my salvation.  Lamentations 3:13, 19-22 says "He shot his arrows deep into my heart.  The thought of my suffering and hopelessness is bitter beyond words.  I will never forget this awful time, as I grieve over my loss.  Yet I still dare to hope when I remember this:  The unfailing love of the Lord never ends!  By His mercies we have been kept from complete destruction".  

I know that God created my tears.  I know that Jesus was a man of sorrow and that He too cried.  I know that He catches my tears.  I know this because Psalms 56:8 says "You have collected all my tears in your bottle.  You have recorded each one in your book".  I know that my tears are precious to God.  I know that my tears are a gift that He gave me.  A gift of healing and release.  Isaiah 25:8 says "The Sovereign Lord will wipe away all my tears".   If God sees my tears of grief as being so important that He would collect them and save them, then how could my tears mean that I have no faith?

Even Jesus cried in grief.  When his good friend Lazarus died,  Jesus wept (John 11:35).  The shortest verse in the Bible, but one of the sweetest.  Jesus cried because his friend died.  He wept because of the pain it caused Lazurus' family, he wept because death was not in God's original plan.  He wept from his loss.  Does that mean that the Christ had no faith?  Of course not.  So, if my Savior cried over the death of a loved one, why would people think that a Christian who is grieving should be above the very Son of God?

I don't think that being a Christian eases the pain of loss.  I think that this pain is human and unavoidable.  BUT I do believe that we grieve with hope.  I do believe that to sorrow is Holy because Christ sorrows with us.  I believe that in my grief, that God loves me so much that He is here, right beside me, catching each and every single teardrop, letting not one go to waste, that He wipes away the tears with the hem of His robe.    So, yes, I grieve, but I grieve with hope in my heart.

Psalms 119:28-30 says "I weep with grief; encourage me by your word.  Keep me from lying to myself; give me the privilege of knowing your law.  I have chosen to be faithful; I have determined to live by your laws".  

And here is my hope:  Revelation 21:4 says : He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever."

And so, my beautiful, Sweet Michael, I will continue to cry and to mourn and to grieve.  And I will wait for that day that God has promised us.  The day when my tears will be wiped from my eyes and I will no longer cry over your death, but I will rejoice in our new life.

I love you so much, Baby.  And I miss you with all my heart.  I just have to hang onto God's hope until that day that I will see your wonderful face, hear your laughter and feel your warmth again.


This is one of my favorite songs.  Praise you in the storm by casting crowns.  Just copy and paste the link:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xGPS8sa-bRQ