Will We Be Married In Heaven?

My Sweet Michael,


It's been 9 months and 2 days since you've been gone.  Last night I was visited once again by my old friend "the ugly cry".  I have so many questions, so much desperation in looking for answers.  I miss you so very, very much and the reality of the fact that you're not coming back is starting to feel very real and very scary.  I still just can't get my mind around it completely.


I think one of the hardest questions is this:  Will you still be my husband in Heaven?  So many faiths believe that that there will be no marriage in Heaven.  This is based on Luke 20:27-38 (As well as Matthew 22:23-32 and Mark 12:18-27) (The sons of this age marry and are given in marriage; but they who shall be accounted worthy to obtain that age, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage; for they cannot any more die; for they are equal to the angels, and are the sons of God, being sons of the resurrection.”).

Jesus’ response addresses marriage as a legal contract – which is what the Sadducees were asking about – but it says nothing about marriage as the union of two souls. To understand this, it’s necessary to understand why the Sadducees were asking Him this question in the first place. The Sadducees “deny that there is any resurrection.” They were asking Jesus a question about marriage in the resurrection not because they were curious, but because they wanted to prove that there could not possibly be a resurrection at all. 

The kind of marriage that Jesus spoke of in contrast to the Mosaic marriage was a different thing entirely. He said, “On this account shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall be into one flesh. Wherefore they are no longer two, but one flesh. What, therefore, God has joined together, let not man put asunder,” and “Moses, because of your hard heartedness, permitted you to send away your wives; but from the beginning it was not so.” The ideal of marriage was that of Adam and Eve – not a legal contract but a union of souls. It is marriage, but in a sense so different from the idea of the Sadducees as to not even be deserving of the same name. 

From Bible.Org:  The implication of Scripture is that we will know our loved ones in heaven both before and after resurrection. The disciples were able to recognize the Lord after His death and resurrection. Scripture teaches us that we will have a glorified body like his (Phil. 3:21f) which suggests that what was true of His body will be true of ours.

Further, 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 was written to believers, some of whom had lost a believing loved one. They were concerned about how death would affect those believing loved ones who had died before the Lord returned in person. In Paul’s answer to this he gave revelation that concerned several things: the rapture of living saints and the resurrection of believers who had died, but he also speaks of a reunion not only with the Lord, but with all believers. As a word of comfort this certainly speaks not only of the facts of the rapture and resurrection, but also of a reunion which would mean little if we could not recognize our friends and loved ones.

In addition, the Bible speaks of death and the rapture as being “at home” (see 2 Cor. 5:1-8 and John 14:1f) and this would also imply recognizing love ones.

In my heart, when I think about my own death, I "see" you greeting me on the other side.  I imagine that you will take my hand and walk with me and present me to Christ as your wife.  Scripture talks about the second coming and that the dead in Christ will rise first and be reunited with those of us left on Earth and THEN will join Christ (AFTER THAT, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up TOGETHER WITH THEM IN THE CLOUDS to meet the Lord IN THE AIR..." (I Thess.4:15-17 NIV).) 

So, Michael, here's what I think in a nutshell:  God created us in His image.  He created Adam and from Adam's own being (his rib), he created Eve.  He didn't use Adam's rib because He'd run out of dirt, He used Adam's rib because Eve was a PART of Adam.  All things on this Earth, God created for man's use and pleasure.  The Bible says that Heaven will be even more beautiful and more wonderful than this life. The Bible says that God does not change.  He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow.  

So, if God created man and woman to be one flesh, why do people believe that in this ONE area, God would look down and say "Oh, wow, now THAT was a mistake...I sure don't want any of that up here in Heaven"?  If I'm wrong, then I sure wish that you would come back down here and tell me! (Which opens up a whole other theological discussion, doesn't it?  LOL!).

I guess when it comes right down to it, I know that Heaven will be wonderful.  I know that I will know you and recognize you and that we will love each other.  I don't think anyone disputes that much.  I also know that Heaven will be more amazing and magnificent than I can ever imagine with my poor, limited, earthly brain.  I know that I will be with my Savior.  I know that I will see you and love you and together, just like we did here on Earth, we will lift our arms and we will praise the Glory of God.

I love you so much, My Sweet Husband.  And I know that I will continue to love  you and be loved by you, in Heaven.